When Is It The End

When Is It The End

  “Perhaps the best tribute you can pay someone who dies is to share his belief in life by putting your life ahead of his death.” – Max Lerner So, here’s the thing; we all die, but losing a loved one can almost kill us. When we care, we cannot think of life without that person. No matter what went on before, the memories will linger and the good ones usually outweigh the bad ones. That’s what makes us sad. There are all sorts of ‘lost’ relationships. I will not…

Relating Through Technology

Relating Through Technology

“Planned obsolescence is another word for progress.” – James Jeffrey Roche If you “look at the history of people relating to one another you will find that what is going on today seems rather sterile. We have come from living with families or living near one another   to barely connecting in person for any period of time. Our wonderful technology now allows us to see one another, talk to each other, and write instantly to whomever we wish. It is a wonder to be sure and the ability to relate…

Love Is Always Agony

Love Is Always Agony

“Who will tell whether one happy moment of love or the joy of breathing or walking on a bright morning and smelling the fresh air, is not worth all the suffering and effort life implies?” – Erich Fromm We all suffer in this life. Some more than others, but no one escapes. The pain that might be physical is one area of distress. The mental anguish is another. The problem is that all people have experiences, ideas, thoughts, and times when life seems unbearable. The daily needs of living take…

Death Ends The Pain of Love

Death Ends The Pain of Love

“Life is not a spectacle or a feast: it is a predicament.” – George Santayana Ain’t that the truth? When you have loved completely and in every way possible you hope it never ends. The end may only come with the death of one of you. These relationships are rare indeed and often not in first marriages or connections. When love comes at a mature level after life’s many experiences and when people know themselves it is the magic that cannot be duplicated. There are many who live out their…

When Your Children Become Alien

When Your Children Become Alien

“Children are a great comfort in your old age – and they help you reach it faster, too.” – Lionel Kauffman That’s right. If many people really knew what having and raising children was all about many would opt out. Today young people do question having children where other generations took it as a given and necessary expectation. At some point and maybe at many points your children will become alien to you. That of course, is appropriate if they are to become their own person. It is easy when…