“True love begins when nothing is looked for in return.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupery
Try that on your piano… lots of luck, especially on the day set aside for lovers.
There are lovers and then there are lovers.
How does one become a good one you ask?
It doesn’t come naturally to most.
True love is expressed in a thousand different ways… every day.
It is touching, doing considerate things that a partner enjoys, apologizing when you are wrong, or even if not, making life happy, remembering important occasions, sharing time and having experiences to cherish, being there for the ‘bad’ times, and best of all giving of each other’s bodies for sexual pleasure.
Talking about everything and working through issues is high on the list. Just looking into each other’s’ eyes and knowing you are at the core of their happiness makes a good lover.
Doing special loving things as a surprise works.
We all know who does not or who does love us no matter what they say or do. We FEEL it. Here you can trust your instincts.
What people do to display their caring differs according to culture and custom. It also depends on their learning about love, their talents, and their resources.
The history is rather fascinating.
It began as a religious celebration for one or more Christian saints named Valentinus.
A popular story states that one of these saints in Roman times was imprisoned for performing weddings for soldiers who were forbidden to marry and for ministering to Christians.
During his imprisonment he healed Asterius, the daughter of his jailer. Before his execution he sent her a letter signed,”Your Valentine.”
The day is celebrated in many parts of the world and it became associated with romantic love in the high Middle Ages with Chaucer when courtly love flourished.
In 18th century England lovers expressed their love with flowers, candy, and cards. Hooray for commercialism!
Nothing wrong with taking that step back and thinking how to show you love him or her. It’s mostly him showing her…but can go both ways which I happen to like.
Send him flowers. Why not?
The main thing is to DO something.
Think again you guys.
If you have not been well trained you need to learn. This is important.
Now it is true there are many perfunctory, or obligatory flowers and candy bought and given but the giver and the receiver know somewhere deep inside it is not from the heart and the depth or intensity of real love just ain’t there.
The words spoken or written matter, when they convey intimacy.
Some masquerading lovers can put on a show, and even say the words but here again, the heart CANNOT be fooled.
There are also some guys who just think this is not important and they show their love all the time so why bother with this ‘nonsense.’
Think again… to most females it is a message.
Pieces of romantic jewelry keep forever and I have had clients who still wear a heart given to them years ago by someone they loved who showed they loved them in this sweet way.
Whatever you can dream up to display what you really feel will work.
Unlike that monument to love, the Taj Mahal, don’t wait for your lover’s death to show it to the world forever!!
Be a saint!!
“The truth is there is only one terminal dignity-love. And the story of a love is not important–what is important is that one is capable of love. It is perhaps the only glimpse we are permitted of eternity.” – Helen Hayes