“It is better to ask some of the questions than to know all the answers.” – James Thurber
When it comes to this life, there is much we don’t know about and things we will never know. One way to discover anything is to ask questions and to be questioning. The most interesting people are the curious ones. The smartest, ask questions all the time. The not so smart hide that fact by not asking and showing their ignorance.
The way to discover another is to explore them and that is done through questions as well as behavior.
Life is never, ’solved.’ We have many perceptions and often they are not accurate. The way to test them is to unravel the answers.
Now, I suppose there can be too many questions and that then becomes a way of life not just a part of it. It’s the right mix that makes all the difference.
Marcel Proust did a good job.
He lived from 1871 to 1922 and was a French novelist, critic, and essayist.
His monumental work, a novel is “In Search of Time Lost” or the English translation, “Remembrance of Things Past.”
This was made into a movie.
It is a work in seven volumes with more than two thousand characters!
As a closeted homosexual, (not unusual for the times), he was one of the first to feature homosexuality openly and at length in his work.
He gave us a questionnaire that I really like and recommend couples to do it together.
Here it is:
What is your idea of perfect happiness?
What is your greatest fear?
Which living person do you most admire?
What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?
What is the trait you most deplore in others?
What is your greatest extravagance?
What is your favorite journey?
What do you consider the most over-rated virtue?
On what occasion do you lie?
What do you most dislike about your appearance?
Which living person do you most despise?
Which words or phrases do you most overuse?
What is your greatest regret?
What or who is the greatest love of your life?
Which talent would you most like to have?
What is your current state of mind?
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
If you were to die and come back as a person or thing, what do you think it would be?
Where would you like to live?
What is your favorite occupation?
What is the quality you most like in a man?
What is the quality you most like in a woman?
What do you most value in your friends?
Who are your favorite writers?
Who is your favorite hero of fiction?
Who are your heroes in real life?
What are your favorite names?
How would you like to die?
There you have it. Did you discover anything new about yourself? Your partner?
I hope so.
“Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. – Albert Einstein