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Be My Valentine Or Be Mad

“Life is pain and the enjoyment of love is an anesthetic.” – Cesare Pavese


Bring on the flowers and candy for your Valentine! Does that demonstrate your love? Is it only what guys do for females or do females have an excuse to show their love to their guy?

Is this love?

Love is a two-way street and it’s fun to share all of the caring and show it concretely.The sale of diamonds and jewelry is high for this special day.

Declaring your love on a special day is necessary but how necessary?

What would happen if you did nothing on this day for love? For some it would be fine but for many it would mean you are not loved in the way you want.

Love however is a constantly changing emotion and can turn on a dime. You cannot make up for hurts that go on regularly with a bouquet on this one day. The thing about relationships is that they need attention ALL the time.

When you can ‘take it or leave it’ you are not in love. When the pain outweighs the pleasure candy on Valentine’s day won’t do it.

The perfunctory card or gift is known to be just that. Trust your heart, always. Follow your heart!

Real love is a constant Valentine and it doesn’t take candy or flowers to say you love someone, really.

Doing something special from your heart that you know will make the one you love happy is the best gift. The people who don’t have that in them or really do not feel ‘that’ way have partners that make up for it with things.

It is a funny business this love stuff… and Valentine’s day brings it out in many ways.

Children send cards to everyone in the class so no one is left out. Maybe there should be something like a Santa Post Office for those who don’t receive cards on this day?

Best Valentine

How do you say love? Words… gestures, caring deeds, things, …? It’s all part of the package.

When this day comes around it should be the small acknowledgment of what goes on regularly.

Like Mother’s day or those other card days that say what you feel.

It really is what you DO on a regular basis that gets spelled out by Hallmark on each of these days.

When you truly love in all its ramification, sex being the heart of it, you can revel in it all the time.

You cannot fool your heart and when you are in love you know it. When someone loves you, you know it.

So, take the time to say it in any way that suits you and that mushy Valentine is a good thing to add to the list.

Some people, mainly men, often have a difficult time with words of love and the card can say what they feel more easily. No problem.

Even though females are usually more verbal and can get out feelings quicker a Valentine for him doesn’t hurt.

If you have ever read a love poem, heard a love song, or seen a love movie, the plots are all the same. Boy and girl meet, are passionately drawn to one another, and usually act it out. Then come the issues that force them emotionally apart. The resolution is to continue or end the relationship.

What can be learned is how to work things out. Often it involves a lot of compromise and much forgiveness. The people who are too strong, stubborn, or controlling usually are the ones that see all that as weakness and give up love when they don’t have to. It’s that category of, ’If only… ?

People point fingers and lick their wounds rather than look within themselves to see what they can change to get what they really want in the end.

That’s what takes courage; being the one to reach out and be loving when you are hurt takes supreme courage. The prize at the end is the best Valentine; love!!
So, I am sending you a Valentine that says I really care about you, and so much that I want you to find the only happiness worth living for; that special someone to love. It will come back to you a hundredfold. I promise!!

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” – Lao Tzu

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