Is Love Really Worth it

Is Love Really Worth it

Is Love Really Worth it “Love doesn’t make the world go ‘round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” –Franklin P. Jones You can believe it or not. Only those who have experienced the kind of love I write about can know this to be true. So, is love worth it? There are all kinds of love to be sure but that love shared with passion between true lovers is the epitome and what people all strive to achieve. Those fortunate enough to have risked their hearts completely, no matter…

The Middle Muddle

The Middle Muddle

“Setting a good example for your children takes all the fun out of middle age.” – William Feather age.” – William Feather Being in the middle of anything is usually not fun, and the middle muddle really is difficult. You are not young and you are not old. It’s sort of like those ghastly teen years; not a child and not yet an adult. The problem here is that the middle years go on for a long, long time. After the age of fifty things start to happen; the body…

There’s All Kinds Of Smart

There’s All Kinds Of Smart

“People who are sensible about love are incapable of it.” – Douglas Yates We all know people who we think are ‘smart.’ What defines that for you? For my money, there are all kinds of smart. There’s the book learning smart. Those people who read and can tell you all sorts of regurgitated facts or ideas from others. There’s the professorial type or school marm type who think they have mastered a subject and go on to teach it… over and over again. There’s the accomplished professional, whatever, who really…

Managing Relational Jealousy

Managing Relational Jealousy

 By our guest blogger Chris Fariello, PhD, LMFT   In my counseling practice, I work with many people who struggle with jealousy for a variety of reasons. It can become a major obstacle to an intimate relationship. Despite how enlightened we think we are, most of us experience jealousy. A few rare individuals never experience jealousy. I advise clients to treat jealousy as a given: assume that it will occur, and be prepared with strategies to successfully address it and minimize the damage.   Jealousy is really a bundle of…

Who Ends It?… Matters

Who Ends It?… Matters

Who Ends It?… Matters “If you marry, you will regret it; if you do not marry, you will also regret it.”  –  Soren Kierkegaard When a relationship is over it’s over. Hopefully, the two people involved mutually decide, but if one of them has had it, it can be very painful for the person still in love. Who makes the decision determines the outcome and the feelings. If you are the one who ends it the feelings will be a relief and you will move on, but if you are the…