When Is It The End

When Is It The End

  “Perhaps the best tribute you can pay someone who dies is to share his belief in life by putting your life ahead of his death.” – Max Lerner So, here’s the thing; we all die, but losing a loved one can almost kill us. When we care, we cannot think of life without that person. No matter what went on before, the memories will linger and the good ones usually outweigh the bad ones. That’s what makes us sad. There are all sorts of ‘lost’ relationships. I will not…

Death Ends The Pain of Love

Death Ends The Pain of Love

“Life is not a spectacle or a feast: it is a predicament.” – George Santayana Ain’t that the truth? When you have loved completely and in every way possible you hope it never ends. The end may only come with the death of one of you. These relationships are rare indeed and often not in first marriages or connections. When love comes at a mature level after life’s many experiences and when people know themselves it is the magic that cannot be duplicated. There are many who live out their…

Some Of The Best Are Gay

Some Of The Best Are Gay

Some Of The Best Are Gay “Bisexuality immediately doubles your chances for a date on Saturday night.” – Rodney Dangerfield While waiting for a table at a trendy brunch restaurant I sat next to a very handsome guy. Being friendly, he began talking to me and I also being friendly went on talking with him. He was bright and interesting and with his male partner. There was no doubt he was gay. Looking at people all the time, I am quite aware that there are few good-looking men around, of…

Listen Up Guys

Listen Up Guys

“The human race has been set up. Someone, somewhere, is playing a practical joke on us. Apparently, women need to feel loved to have sex. Men need to have sex to feel loved. How do we ever get started?” – Billy Connolly It was Freud who pondered the question, ’What do women want?’ He never answered it. I however, after over thirty years as a relationship therapist will attempt to assist you guys with some of my insights. First of all, consider why I start this with a quote about…

There’s All Kinds Of Smart

There’s All Kinds Of Smart

“People who are sensible about love are incapable of it.” – Douglas Yates We all know people who we think are ‘smart.’ What defines that for you? For my money, there are all kinds of smart. There’s the book learning smart. Those people who read and can tell you all sorts of regurgitated facts or ideas from others. There’s the professorial type or school marm type who think they have mastered a subject and go on to teach it… over and over again. There’s the accomplished professional, whatever, who really…