What Gender Are You

What Gender Are You

“Different though the sexes are, they intermix. In every human being a vacillation from one sex to the other takes place, and often it is only the clothes that keep the male or female likeness, while underneath the sex is the very opposite of what it is above.” – Virginia Woolf  We all are conditioned to the stereotypical ideals of what a male or female should be; what they look like, how they behave, and what they do sexually. Gender. Well, I am here to tell you many people do…

Some Of The Best Are Gay

Some Of The Best Are Gay

Some Of The Best Are Gay “Bisexuality immediately doubles your chances for a date on Saturday night.” – Rodney Dangerfield While waiting for a table at a trendy brunch restaurant I sat next to a very handsome guy. Being friendly, he began talking to me and I also being friendly went on talking with him. He was bright and interesting and with his male partner. There was no doubt he was gay. Looking at people all the time, I am quite aware that there are few good-looking men around, of…

Managing Relational Jealousy

Managing Relational Jealousy

 By our guest blogger Chris Fariello, PhD, LMFT   In my counseling practice, I work with many people who struggle with jealousy for a variety of reasons. It can become a major obstacle to an intimate relationship. Despite how enlightened we think we are, most of us experience jealousy. A few rare individuals never experience jealousy. I advise clients to treat jealousy as a given: assume that it will occur, and be prepared with strategies to successfully address it and minimize the damage.   Jealousy is really a bundle of…

OMG I’m Gay – OMG I’m Transgenedered

OMG I’m Gay – OMG I’m Transgenedered

While this is still an issue for many in America, I believe it should go away as a problem. Because we have a Puritanical background and so many Americans are religious, it becomes an issue. It makes life for good people sad and difficult unnecessarily. What I want to say at the outset here is that no one asks to be different from the compact majority. It makes life hard, especially for children. But, more importantly, these things cannot be changed. It is the rare person who is truly gay…