Ready Or Not

Ready Or Not

“Jealousy would be far less torturous if we understood that love is a passion entirely unrelated to our merits.” – Paul Eldridge We have all known a period when someone ‘bothers’ us in a way that makes us feel competitive. Now it can be about anything. How we look, what we have achieved, what we possess, our family, or whatever. Sometimes it is about very superficial things, and I am brought to mind of a woman who said other women were ‘jealous’ of her because of her jewelry. Did she…

What”s Your Role In Your Relationship

What”s Your Role In Your Relationship

“The family you come from isn’t as important as the family you’re going to have.” – Ring Lardner As holidays approach we are usually with family. This can be any assortment of individuals these days. Step whatever’s, same sex partners, in-laws, (that’s always fun!), and those mixes of the generations. Whatever the composite is there will no doubt be a variety of mixed feelings. Many of these will be revisits from past times and years. The feeling parts do not disappear. In some cases, they get worse. If fueled with…

Holidays And Family Can Be…

Holidays And Family Can Be…

“Life appears to me too short to be spent in nursing animosity, or registering wrongs.” – Charlotte Bronte” ‘Jane Eyre’ Fill in the blank. Holidays usually bring a variety of family members together. What happens and how they behave is what this is about. In order to understand the interactions we have to first look at the history of the people involved. Grandparents may represent the origin of the family’s value system. Of course, they are from an earlier generation but they may indeed have set the stage for all…