Marriage… The Ultimate Mine Field

Marriage… The Ultimate Mine Field

“One was never married, and that’s his hell; another is and that’shis plague.” – Robert Burton This marriage business is what I have been doing for decades. There is NOTHING like marriage but marriage! What is currently taking place in this whole arena is ground breaking and the outcome is unknown. It will take at least a generation to assess it all. Today we have choices that were never available before. We can meet people in a variety of ways; worldwide. We can have sex with anyone we choose at…

The Middle Muddle

The Middle Muddle

“Setting a good example for your children takes all the fun out of middle age.” – William Feather age.” – William Feather Being in the middle of anything is usually not fun, and the middle muddle really is difficult. You are not young and you are not old. It’s sort of like those ghastly teen years; not a child and not yet an adult. The problem here is that the middle years go on for a long, long time. After the age of fifty things start to happen; the body…

Getting Rid of Love Is Never Easy

Getting Rid of Love Is Never Easy

” Lips that taste of tears, they say are the best for kissing.” – Dorothy Parker You’ve loved him/her with all your heart, (and body), for a long time… years but the problems have always been there and dealt with. In the beginning, the thrall of love blankets everything. The drive to be together in every way pushes you toward one another. You can’t be apart long or you do just that; long. Getting rid of love is never easy. The issue or issues keep coming up and guess what;…

Can You Love Two People At The Same Time?

Can You Love Two People At The Same Time?

“Love is moral even without legal marriage but marriage is immoral without love.” – Ellen Key, a writer. “Love is only a dirty trick played on us to achieve continuation of the species.” – W. Somerset Maugham In recent surveys, forty percent of women today have never been married. Data also shows that one in two marriages break up within twenty years. People with higher education have marriages that last longer. The divorce rate for people over fifty has doubled in the past two decades. Over 600,000 in 2009. Women…

If You Had Known Then

If You Had Known Then

“One of the sources of pride in being a human being is the ability to bear present frustrations in the interests of longer purposes.” – Helen Merrill Lynd This is certainly true but how much frustration is too much? Each of us has to answer that question individually and one day may differ from another. You may want to kill him/her one day and want to love him/her to death, (no pun intended), the next… or the next week… or month… or year. How we deal with our frustrations and…