Nanny Versus Mother

Nanny Versus Mother

Nanny Versus Mother “Parents are the last people on earth who ought to have children.” – Samuel Butler Today we see many women having children for whatever reason and then going back to work and hiring nannies. Some of them leave their children easily but many leave with a heavy heart. What is especially interesting is that many of these ladies do not have to work or need the money. They are educated, talented, and want to offer something to the world. Today they are able to work for the…

Torn Between Two Women

Torn Between Two Women

“The childhood shows the man, as morning shows the day.” – John Milton Whenever Mother’s Day comes up, we are all driven to contemplate from whence we came. We can celebrate with good or not so good remembrances and feelings BUT be aware the past affects today! There are all variety of mothers. And do not forget many people have others in their lives who were not their birth mother but who gave them the nurturing and support, mainly emotional, that prepared them for life. There are any number of…

Children Of Famous People… What Happens

Children Of Famous People… What Happens

“The ‘good’ child may be frightened, and insecure, wanting only to please his parents by submitting to their will, while the ‘bad’ child may have a will of his own and genuine interests but ones which do not please the parents.” – Erich Fromm There you have it in a nutshell. We have children for a variety of reasons, not least of which is to make us proud and live a life we approve of. We live and teach our values, most dictated by the culture we live in. When…

Holidays And Family Can Be…

Holidays And Family Can Be…

“Life appears to me too short to be spent in nursing animosity, or registering wrongs.” – Charlotte Bronte” ‘Jane Eyre’ Fill in the blank. Holidays usually bring a variety of family members together. What happens and how they behave is what this is about. In order to understand the interactions we have to first look at the history of the people involved. Grandparents may represent the origin of the family’s value system. Of course, they are from an earlier generation but they may indeed have set the stage for all…

Managing Relational Jealousy

Managing Relational Jealousy

 By our guest blogger Chris Fariello, PhD, LMFT   In my counseling practice, I work with many people who struggle with jealousy for a variety of reasons. It can become a major obstacle to an intimate relationship. Despite how enlightened we think we are, most of us experience jealousy. A few rare individuals never experience jealousy. I advise clients to treat jealousy as a given: assume that it will occur, and be prepared with strategies to successfully address it and minimize the damage.   Jealousy is really a bundle of…