Nanny Versus Mother

Nanny Versus Mother

Nanny Versus Mother “Parents are the last people on earth who ought to have children.” – Samuel Butler Today we see many women having children for whatever reason and then going back to work and hiring nannies. Some of them leave their children easily but many leave with a heavy heart. What is especially interesting is that many of these ladies do not have to work or need the money. They are educated, talented, and want to offer something to the world. Today they are able to work for the…

First Year of College; Neither Fish Nor Fowl

First Year of College; Neither Fish Nor Fowl

When Dr. Charles Eliot an educator at Harvard was asked how Harvard had gained its’ prestige as the greatest storehouse of knowledge in the nation he replied,” In all likelihood it is because the freshmen bring us so much of it, and the seniors take away so little.” That may be a truer statement than many would like to believe. You are truly not fish or fowl after that first year at college. What it takes to get into a ‘good’ college today is unbelievable. The competition is fierce, let…

The Middle Muddle

The Middle Muddle

“Setting a good example for your children takes all the fun out of middle age.” – William Feather age.” – William Feather Being in the middle of anything is usually not fun, and the middle muddle really is difficult. You are not young and you are not old. It’s sort of like those ghastly teen years; not a child and not yet an adult. The problem here is that the middle years go on for a long, long time. After the age of fifty things start to happen; the body…

You Can’t Manufacture Love

You Can’t Manufacture Love

“We get together and talk, and say we think and feel and believe in such a way, and yet what we really think and feel and believe we never say at all” – Thomas Wolfe Over the years as a therapist I have counselled many people who have lived lives of what I call, ‘faking it.’ It doesn’t mean they are not going through the motions of living; some of them quite successfully, and to them, happily. What they do not do is take the time to be introspective and…

Torn Between Two Women

Torn Between Two Women

“The childhood shows the man, as morning shows the day.” – John Milton Whenever Mother’s Day comes up, we are all driven to contemplate from whence we came. We can celebrate with good or not so good remembrances and feelings BUT be aware the past affects today! There are all variety of mothers. And do not forget many people have others in their lives who were not their birth mother but who gave them the nurturing and support, mainly emotional, that prepared them for life. There are any number of…