Be My Valentine Or Be Mad

Be My Valentine Or Be Mad

“Life is pain and the enjoyment of love is an anesthetic.” – Cesare Pavese   Bring on the flowers and candy for your Valentine! Does that demonstrate your love? Is it only what guys do for females or do females have an excuse to show their love to their guy? Love is a two-way street and it’s fun to share all of the caring and show it concretely.The sale of diamonds and jewelry is high for this special day. Declaring your love on a special day is necessary but how…

You Can’t Manufacture Love

You Can’t Manufacture Love

“We get together and talk, and say we think and feel and believe in such a way, and yet what we really think and feel and believe we never say at all” – Thomas Wolfe Over the years as a therapist I have counselled many people who have lived lives of what I call, ‘faking it.’ It doesn’t mean they are not going through the motions of living; some of them quite successfully, and to them, happily. What they do not do is take the time to be introspective and…

Breakup Or Breakout

Breakup Or Breakout

“Tis better to have loved and lost/ Than never to have loved at all.” – Alfred Lord Tennyson Truer words were never spoken. To have known love is to have experienced what this life is about, or should be about. The tragedy is that this is not taught. How to learn to love? It can start from being loved as a child, or it can be learned with all its ups and downs as we grow up, or maybe it is never learned. The reason many people can’t know or…

Training To Be A Casanova

Training To Be A Casanova

“I have loved women to a frenzy.” – Casanova. There it is, from the man himself. Casanova was born in Venice and lived from 1725 to 1798. His early life included being abandoned by his mother who was an actress, and being sent to live with a grandmother until at an early age he was sent to become a priest! He was thrown out after a short period when found having sexual relations with another boy. He worked as a magician, spy, and translator. In 1755 he was accused of…

Disappointed Get used To It

Disappointed     Get used To It

“Disappointments should be cremated, not embalmed.” – Anonymous (Henry S. Haskins) I guess that means we should forget about our disappointments. Can we? I don’t think that is an easy task. How long we fret, dwell on them or get furious about them is the true issue. Then again, it depends on where we are in life and what the disappointment is. As children we begin to learn to cope with what we don’t like and what needs are not met. Have you watched a child scream for candy or…