He’s A Person Not A Puppet

He’s A Person Not A Puppet

“Love doesn’t attempt to bind, ensnare, capture. It is light, free of the burden of attachments. Love asks nothing, is fulfilled in itself. When love is there, nothing remains to be done.” – Vimala Thakar There you have it. We engage with people; not puppets! Now there are any number of men who want to control their women. They do it in a variety of ways. Some include being nasty, strong, bullying, withholding or supervising money, threatening any sort of behavior and so on. What this is about is when…

Marriage… The Ultimate Mine Field

Marriage… The Ultimate Mine Field

“One was never married, and that’s his hell; another is and that’shis plague.” – Robert Burton This marriage business is what I have been doing for decades. There is NOTHING like marriage but marriage! What is currently taking place in this whole arena is ground breaking and the outcome is unknown. It will take at least a generation to assess it all. Today we have choices that were never available before. We can meet people in a variety of ways; worldwide. We can have sex with anyone we choose at…

Talk About The Big O

Talk About The Big O

“Of all sexual aberrations, chastity is the strangest.” – Anatole France As a therapist for decades, I am always curious about the people who choose not to engage in sexual activity… it’s not natural. The most potent human drive is to connect bodily with a partner who excites you and hopefully one you share loving feelings with. You need to talk about that big O. Now I am not talking about people who have medical conditions that prevent their expression of love physically or the really old people who are…

First Year of College; Neither Fish Nor Fowl

First Year of College; Neither Fish Nor Fowl

When Dr. Charles Eliot an educator at Harvard was asked how Harvard had gained its’ prestige as the greatest storehouse of knowledge in the nation he replied,” In all likelihood it is because the freshmen bring us so much of it, and the seniors take away so little.” That may be a truer statement than many would like to believe. You are truly not fish or fowl after that first year at college. What it takes to get into a ‘good’ college today is unbelievable. The competition is fierce, let…

The Middle Muddle

The Middle Muddle

“Setting a good example for your children takes all the fun out of middle age.” – William Feather age.” – William Feather Being in the middle of anything is usually not fun, and the middle muddle really is difficult. You are not young and you are not old. It’s sort of like those ghastly teen years; not a child and not yet an adult. The problem here is that the middle years go on for a long, long time. After the age of fifty things start to happen; the body…