Ready Or Not

Ready Or Not

“Jealousy would be far less torturous if we understood that love is a passion entirely unrelated to our merits.” – Paul Eldridge We have all known a period when someone ‘bothers’ us in a way that makes us feel competitive. Now it can be about anything. How we look, what we have achieved, what we possess, our family, or whatever. Sometimes it is about very superficial things, and I am brought to mind of a woman who said other women were ‘jealous’ of her because of her jewelry. Did she…

Is Love Really Worth it

Is Love Really Worth it

Is Love Really Worth it “Love doesn’t make the world go ‘round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” –Franklin P. Jones You can believe it or not. Only those who have experienced the kind of love I write about can know this to be true. So, is love worth it? There are all kinds of love to be sure but that love shared with passion between true lovers is the epitome and what people all strive to achieve. Those fortunate enough to have risked their hearts completely, no matter…

He’s A Person Not A Puppet

He’s A Person Not A Puppet

“Love doesn’t attempt to bind, ensnare, capture. It is light, free of the burden of attachments. Love asks nothing, is fulfilled in itself. When love is there, nothing remains to be done.” – Vimala Thakar There you have it. We engage with people; not puppets! Now there are any number of men who want to control their women. They do it in a variety of ways. Some include being nasty, strong, bullying, withholding or supervising money, threatening any sort of behavior and so on. What this is about is when…

Marriage… The Ultimate Mine Field

Marriage… The Ultimate Mine Field

“One was never married, and that’s his hell; another is and that’shis plague.” – Robert Burton This marriage business is what I have been doing for decades. There is NOTHING like marriage but marriage! What is currently taking place in this whole arena is ground breaking and the outcome is unknown. It will take at least a generation to assess it all. Today we have choices that were never available before. We can meet people in a variety of ways; worldwide. We can have sex with anyone we choose at…

Talk About The Big O

Talk About The Big O

“Of all sexual aberrations, chastity is the strangest.” – Anatole France As a therapist for decades, I am always curious about the people who choose not to engage in sexual activity… it’s not natural. The most potent human drive is to connect bodily with a partner who excites you and hopefully one you share loving feelings with. You need to talk about that big O. Now I am not talking about people who have medical conditions that prevent their expression of love physically or the really old people who are…