Enjoy Sex… Fake Love

Enjoy Sex… Fake Love

Enjoy Sex… Fake Love “If passion drives you, let reason hold the reins.” – Benjamin Franklin In today’s world where so much is ‘instant’ it seems there are drastic changes in both how couples relate to one another; both in and out of bed. Nothing new here but… everything! Sex is readily available and can happen with total strangers. Go on-line and say what you might enjoy sexually and there it is. Love, however, is a whole different story. You can indeed enjoy sex and fake love. For some, particularly…

The Middle Muddle

The Middle Muddle

“Setting a good example for your children takes all the fun out of middle age.” – William Feather age.” – William Feather Being in the middle of anything is usually not fun, and the middle muddle really is difficult. You are not young and you are not old. It’s sort of like those ghastly teen years; not a child and not yet an adult. The problem here is that the middle years go on for a long, long time. After the age of fifty things start to happen; the body…

You Can’t Manufacture Love

You Can’t Manufacture Love

“We get together and talk, and say we think and feel and believe in such a way, and yet what we really think and feel and believe we never say at all” – Thomas Wolfe Over the years as a therapist I have counselled many people who have lived lives of what I call, ‘faking it.’ It doesn’t mean they are not going through the motions of living; some of them quite successfully, and to them, happily. What they do not do is take the time to be introspective and…

Friends Come In Many Varieties

Friends Come In Many Varieties

“Friendship is love minus sex and plus reason. Love is friendship plus sex and minus reason.” -Mason Cooley How true. We all have what we call ‘friends.’ They come in a wide variety and for a whole different set of reasons. With some friends we share movies, with others, we share lots of experiences, with some we share a history, and with others we share our deepest feelings. It has been said that to test a friend for how close they are to you, ask to borrow money! That may…

What Gender Are You

What Gender Are You

“Different though the sexes are, they intermix. In every human being a vacillation from one sex to the other takes place, and often it is only the clothes that keep the male or female likeness, while underneath the sex is the very opposite of what it is above.” – Virginia Woolf  We all are conditioned to the stereotypical ideals of what a male or female should be; what they look like, how they behave, and what they do sexually. Gender. Well, I am here to tell you many people do…