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The Perfect Woman… Madonna AND Whore

“I did not come here to talk” Mark Antony to Cleopatra

“Women have a muchbetter time than men in this world; there are far more things forbidden to them.” – Oscar Wilde

What’s all this commotion lately about Sheryl Sandberg’s book, “Lean 

In?”

She sort of says women need to be like men to get ahead. NO, NO, and NO!

Women need to be what they are; WOMEN!!

It took four million years for humans to stand erect, and then many more years until they had sex face to face and we are here primarily for reproducing.Madonna and Whore

Before you start screaming; I believe in women being educated, and using their backgrounds. As a matter of fact male college enrollment is going down 43%.Girls are now valedictorians 70% of the time, and 66% of the girls value high paying jobs compared to 59% of the males. Girls are still paid only .82 cents to every dollar a male earns.

Some things are changing and boys find it hard to sit still in class and view school as less manly, while girls excel in communication skills. There are gender differences.

The role of men is also changing as women enter and move up the ladder to that glass ceiling, (whatever that means).Men are staying home and helping with the house and children. I don’t care what they say there is nothing like a good mother. Ever watch a guy looking after his young child? They are oblivious!

At any rate here we have it; talented women in the work world. Let’s not discuss what happens when she earns more than he does.

Now if these ladies are attractive there is exposure to other men and the whole business. If the marriage or relationship is waning that presents other variables. Very different from the older generation who stayed at home.

I think women want to be beautiful and be inspiring love; in the end. So how does it all get played out and how can women be that Madonna who is accomplished and be that sexy, whore where that counts?

Is it possible?

Not for many. Why?

The Perfect WomanWell, to be in love it takes surrender, not a good quality in getting ahead in a profession. To be in love you have to be playful. Not a quality to possess in running a business.

To be in love you have to go crazy at times. Not a bonus in the real tough world. To be in love you have to be vulnerable. Not what CEO’s are listing on their resumes. To be in love your brain becomes like an addict’s brain. Not a plus in the world of work. Some of this is true for men as well but different for a truly feminine woman.

Can you turn it off while at work? Perhaps but not at the root, in your heart. What matters?

And so on.

In my view it takes an extraordinary woman to possess the dual qualities of accomplishment at high levels and the femininity to have an intense intimate relationship!

Go find her.

There are some rare ones out there but few and far between.

There is one theory on the horizon that can help and that is expounded by the CEO of Business Talent Group. She says there should be top positions that are available on less than a full time basis. That would give those women at the top the opportunity to perhaps work three days a week or so. The job would still be done and taken in shorter bites. Time for love, children, and other activities. Great idea!!

Whatever the outcome, over time, top people will make their world and hopefully not have to suffer the job taking over their lives… because

Life with love and a relationship with intensity is the ONLY pure joy in this life. Accomplishment and using one’s talents and remaining female to the core is not easy today. No one has it all and there is no rose covered path for anyone… men, or women. My belief is that the best will still be what nature gave them and centuries of evolution cannot be wiped away…nor should it.

The 1960’s and birth control, along with books like, “The Joy of Sex” helped liberate women in those areas. Now we need to address this issue. This is all about being at the top but there are millions struggling as well, who are not in those lofty arenas. Get on with it for all women, (and men too).

Those that can’t incorporate the Madonna with the whore are usually just limited and jealous.

“Moral indignation is jealousy with a halo – H. G. Wells

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